feat(node): Make getModuleFromFilename compatible with ESM

[timfish]

Ref #10046

This removes usage of require.main.filename to bring better ESM compatability.

An extra bonus in that now createGetModuleFromFilename is ESM compatible, we can use it in the Anr worker when appRootPath is supplied (ie. Electron only for now).

⚠️ Fingerprinting

This may change module fingerprinting for ESM since previously when require.main.filename was not available, process.cwd() was used.